This is written as though addressed to a female slave.
Love and sex are two very important elements in creating a happy and pleasurable life. What are they like in your life as a true slave?
Sex is the easier than love to discuss. Sexual desire is fundamentally based on chemicals in our bodies. Seductiveness and erotic behavior can stimulate sexual desire when there are sufficient chemicals present, but if they are lacking so is sexual desire. Luckily this is not an issue for healthy people in the prime of life.
Sex is both an emotional and a physical release. It is an engrossing, intimately shared activity. In it we can lose ourselves. Through it we can escape banality. Sex is expressed most immediately and directly in the act of intercourse itself. However, it is also expressed through sexually stimulating behavior, sexually enticing looks, and alluring attire. Thus, dressing in certain ways is as sexually potent as is acting in certain ways.
For you, though, sex is also something more. Through it you can prove your obedience is not confined to the ordinary and mundane, that it in fact is a serious commitment. Sex is one of the tools in my collection: it is a potent test of your slavish obedience and performance. Through sex, I can require you to transgress social inhibitions, to flaunt normal conventions, to shock others and draw attention to yourself, to open your body to sexual invasion, and to willingly give yourself to other's sexual pleasure. In short, the taboos of sex are a potent touchstone which I can apply to you as my slave.
In contrast to normal society, sexuality for you then has risen to the level of a virtue. Sexual performance at my order reinforces our relationship and brings pleasure to me. If you are truly committed to me as your Master, you receive the double benefit of feeling participatory pleasure yourself as well as the vicarious pleasure of satisfying me. In short, sex in slavery can be both especially exciting as well as serve as a particularly potent means of binding us as Master and slave together.
Love, however, is not the same as sex. Whereas sex is primarily physical with emotional overtones, love is the reverse, primarily emotional with physical overtones. While sex provides excitement and stimulation, love provides a deep sense of joy and satisfaction. Unfortunately, there is no direct relationship between the two. In some relationships, one can be extremely satisfactory but not the other. Sometimes both are present, but there is no guarantee.
To be precise, there is more than one kind of love. One kind, "true love," is rare. It cannot be predicted, it cannot be earned, and perhaps it cannot even be lost. Although intense and highly valued, it is not the only kind of love that is important.
A second kind of love is important for our discussion. This is the kind of love that grows in people's lives as they share themselves with another, care for another, give themselves for another, and are appreciated by the other. This is the kind of love that a Master and slave can gain as they share in living their lifestyle. What does this love mean to you as a slave?
First, it means that you should not expect to be loved by me initially. I may care for you and nurture you, yet your submission to me will be judged by the criteria of your slavery. Love from me is something that you should expect to earn over time. Of course, the same concepts apply to me as well.
Another important aspect of this kind of love is that female nurturing is especially naturally promoting of feelings of love. This is hardwired into the female body. So, as you attend to me and provides various forms of nurturing, you are inevitably buiding up feelings of love for me. This is good, because you will instinctively realize that you should express you love through your submission to me. Thus, your love will bind you even tighter to me.
Males, however, are not wired exactly the same. Ultimately I must respond to your building feelings of love. Here love is now a gift. It is not required that I love you, and you cannot demand it of me. Yet, as your Master I must acknowledge that your slavish love is very important to me -- so important that I in turn have responded by loving you as a slave. What is not clear, however, is exactly how I should give my love to you as a slave.
Love is nurturing, but it can also be equalizing. While love can enrich a relationship and provide a deeper level of sharing and commitment, it can also ultimately tend to erode the tightest bonds holding the slave in submission. This, then, is the final interesting aspect of love in slavery. To keep a Master-slave relationship stable, your love should be expressed as a desire to be loved as a slave and not as an equal partner. You should desire to love and support me as your Master, and celebrate my power over you rather than loving me as an equal partner. For me as your Master, it should be a complementary desire to be loved as a Master, giving love and guidance to you as a slave, and celebrating your subservience to me. As to whether or not the nature of love itself can support this I cannot say. And, indeed, it probably does not matter, since the more powerful the love between us, the less important are the formal structures within which it expresses itself.
However, let us examine how you as a slave should think about love. I believe that these are the understandings that you should have as a true slave towards me as your owner and Master.
You express your love through how you submit to me as your Master.
Full submission to my desires shows true love for me and respect for my wishes. You also experience the quality of your enslavement as an expression of my love for you as my slave and possession.
As your Master you trust me and believe in me.
You know the vagaries of life, and so expect that at times you will be disappointed or hurt, and you accept this is part of the test of your love.
You reveal your innermost self to me.
You realize that secrets only serve to separate you from me.
You are not ashamed of your dependence on me.
You readily turn to me for things you cannot (or are not allowed to) provide for yourself. You humbly tell me of your physical and emotional needs so that I may take care of you. Indeed, such dependence is proof to both of us of your slavery.
You seek to make yourself more desirable to me.
For example, by perfecting your body, your compliance, and your skills. Perfecting such accomplishments is an offering of your slavishness to me.
You place my needs before all others.
You follow my orders with true commitment. Accomplishments which I will never know prove your slavishness to yourself.
You accept that some discomfort is part of your lifestyle.
This is especially true in your dressing, body decoration, training, and discipline. Usually these are for my benefit, and you are gratified when you see my pleasure in their results.
You and I are held together by an important, shared bond.
I know that sometimes what I am asking of you is difficult, and yet I demand your compliance. Your obedience is both a gift to me and an admission of your helplessness before me. I enjoy both aspects of the bond between us. You understand and accept this as well. Both of us know we are bound together by a special love.
You serve my true needs.
You are even willing to risk my displeasure by going beyond what I order, if it better serves what I wish. Sometimes you will be wrong, and you will willingly suffer for your mistakes. Sometimes you will be right, and you will glory in my praise.
You understand that I desire you to belong to me like a treasured possession -- and you are pleased when your actions prove to me that you are.
You know you cannot show greater love to me than by truly belonging to me as my slave.
These principles are ideals for a true slave in love with her Master. A slave's love is not an overwhelming, blinding emotion. Rather, it is a feeling of happiness and commitment that builds as the connections between slave and Master grow through life. To live such a meaningful, loving life you must learn to direct your being (in thoughts, words, and deeds) towards building these connections. These principles will help guide you in being truly loving in the way a true slave should be towards me as your owner and Master.
[Copyright © 1997 by New Age Quest]